Hey guys! Happy TMI Tuesday!
So the actual challenge today is “A Letter to Someone Who Hurt You Recently.” And if that isn’t some weird parallel to my life right now, I don’t know what is. Don’t worry… I’ll explain.
Just as a side note, I’m probably not going to stay true to this challenge because I did recently write a letter to someone who hurt me. I said what I needed to say, and that’s the end of it. I don’t need to be blasting that information here.
Soo um, there’s no easy way to say this so I’ll just be blunt: I’m single. I recently got out of a long term relationship. Many of you who keep up with my blog are real life friends of mine so you obviously know who it is. Honestly, there’s not really much to say about it. I know everyone always expects this dramatic, tragic ending but really… is that how life always is? Yes, our lives can get pretty fcking crazy and hectic, but sometimes the answers to some of our biggest problems are the most simplest ideas. Now I’ll answer some of the most common questions that are probably running through your head:
1) Are you ok?
Yes, I’m fine. I mean, no break up is ever easy so I’m not like, COMPLETELY ok. But I’m doing just fine and I’m keeping a positive attitude. It helps that I have amazing friends by my side. I really don’t know what I’d do without you guys.
2) What happened?!?!?!111 😦
To answer this in the most accurate and direct way – LIFE happened. You can’t expect a happy ending with every person you date; that’s just a naive way to view life. Life took he and I in two different paths and we could no longer make it work, no matter how hard we tried. And that’s ok. I wish him the best and I hope he finds happiness.
And uh… that’s all the common questions I could think of. If you want to ask me anything else, then by all means, go for it.
Break ups are tough and the path back to happiness is always a struggle. What’s important to know is that you should never feel bad about yourself and think you weren’t good enough. If anyone ever makes you feel less than you’re worth, then it’s time to GTFO of that hot mess. Just because it didn’t work out with that person, doesn’t mean you’re not good enough for ANYONE. You are a gem, and you are the only YOU in this entire universe. If the person you’re dating can’t appreciate that, then fck them!
Not literally.. but… you know what I mean.
And just for the record, I’m not implying that he thought I was worthless. In fact, he treated me very well. I’m just speaking on a general break up note.
Also, if you’re going through a break up or a hard/complicated time in your relationship, remember to talk it out with someone you trust. It’s hard to deal with all those feelings by yourself. It’s overwhelming and you probably won’t be making rational decisions because of how emotional you might be. So find a trustworthy friend or a counselor and let them feels out.
My last piece of advice for handling a break up is… hellooo… music! In case you didn’t read some of my previous posts, I mentioned my favorite break up song is Hilary Duff’s “So Yesterday.” This song helps me feel a little stronger and helps me move forward. It might not work for you, so make sure you find a song that really resonates with your situation. If all else fails, blast some Destiny’s Child.
For all the women who independent, throw yo hands up at meeee.
(Please tell me you know that song. Shame on you if you don’t know that classic Destiny’s Child song.)
TMI Fact of the Day: The other day at work, I almost tripped. I got so scared that I was gonna eat shit, that I farted.
Uh.. yeah. Random. It was really funny when it happened though. My shift lead and I died laughing that night.
The Best way to get over someone is to hook up with someone hotter them him! It always works for me! lol